SUCCESS begins with believing in yourself!
✨Find your people. Help them and let them help you. Positivity breeds positivity.✨
Today’s big news is… (🥁drum roll, please🥁):
FABULOUS version 2.0 coming soon!
Yep, that’s right. An updated version of FABULOUS is coming to your favorite online book retailer this summer!
Of course, it won’t be the same exact book.
The updated version will feature a brief introduction explaining the unique niche FABULOUS fills, correct a few typos and, best of all, will include How To Maximize Your Potential as a bonus feature!
📚Click HERE to get your copy of It’s Okay Not to Be Fabulous Every Day!
🔗REBRANDED WEBSITE: AllyDalsimer.com is nearly done!
Although the site is still a work in progress, most of the pages are complete and nearly all the links are active. By the next edition of this newsletter, the site should be complete and fully functional. Meanwhile, feel free to check it out and let me know your thoughts.
📒BOOK REVIEWS: Thank you to all who answered my request for reviews!
Reviews are one of the most important tools for getting a book seen and helping other readers decide if a book is right for them. If you haven’t yet reviewed FABULOUS, there’s still time. Or, if you prefer, you can wait for the updated version and provide a review then!
AND NOW…
Today’s Tip: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF🩵
Here’s an ugly truth: most people don’t or won’t understand our aspirations. Perhaps they don’t believe in us. Perhaps they don’t believe in our dream. Perhaps they can’t grasp that a ‘rising tide lifts all ships,’ and won’t help if there’s nothing in it for them. So, what should we do?
To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone, and a funny bone
— Reba McIntyre, Fabulous, p.39
Action Corner⚡
Believing in ourselves in spite of others is the secret to true success. Understanding that we can achieve our dream even when those we thought we could count on don’t support us thwarts the self-destructive and erroneous thought that we’re sunk without their help.
It might take us longer and prove more challenging to achieve our dreams without the support of those we love, but we’ll still get there.
This is not to say that we can go it alone. Quite the opposite.
When those who should be our biggest cheerleaders turn out to be detractors, it’s time to make a change. We must distance ourselves from the nay-sayers and build a network of friends and family who support us and our ambition.
When I ran for office, I contacted a woman I thought of as a friend to help. She was someone I anticipated relying on because she purported to care about my cause, about me, and about helping women. Turns out I miscalculated.
She is no longer in my life and, to my surprise, I don’t miss her.
To build a supportive community, you must first firmly establish a mindset that your life’s ambition is valid and worthy, just as YOU are valid and worthy.
Remember this as you move forward. Building a support network takes time, and there will be loss along with gain. That’s natural.
When confronted with difficult decision points, it’s okay to take a moment to reassess. That hesitation may be your inner voice telling you something you need to hear.
Try following these steps to build your support community:
Release negative people from your life
Spend time with people who see the glass as half-full and who look for silver linings because positivity and optimism are contagious
Limit the time you spend with unsupportive people
Avoid the guy who laughs or interrupts when you talk about your plans and dreams
Spend time with smart, goal-oriented people
Engaging with those who work hard towards their own goals, who are intelligent and who have a vision for their future will elevate you
Join in-person or online groups dedicated to your passion
Facebook is a great starting place – I recently joined a page dedicated to female authors and am loving it
Adopt a more positive attitude
Focus on what you’ve achieved already, celebrate your accomplishments, and embrace that each step you take brings you closer to your target
Obstacles are what we see when we take our eyes off the goal, so stay focused on your goal and on each step towards success. And remember you don’t have to go it alone. Humans are social creatures, and it takes the proverbial village to help us reach maturity.
So, build your village. Find your people. Help them and let them help you. Positivity breeds positivity. If you want to succeed, you can and you will!
The quality of a person’s life is most often a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group — Tony Robbins
Book page on website is now live! Click HERE to check it out!
I still anticipate publishing late in 2024. My current efforts are focused on finding and working with an illustrator, which may impact publication timing, so fingers crossed!
Ally’s Fabulous Book Nook
Crazily enough, despite the overwhelming feedback I received to keep the Book Nook, no one submitted a book recommendation for this edition. So, instead, I selected a recommendation from Good Reads. Hope you like it!
The Nordic Theory of Everything: In Search of a Better Life by Anu Partanen
Moving to America in 2008, Finnish journalist Anu Partanen quickly went from confident, successful professional to wary, self-doubting mess. She found that navigating the basics of everyday life - from buying a cell phone and filing taxes to education and childcare - was much more complicated and stressful than anything she encountered in her homeland. At first she attributed her crippling anxiety to the difficulty of adapting to a freewheeling new culture. But as she got to know Americans better, she discovered they shared her deep apprehension. To understand why life is so different in the US and Finland, Partanen began to look closely at both.
In The Nordic Theory of Everything, Partanen compares and contrasts life in the United States with life in the Nordic region, focusing on four key relationships - parents and children, men and women, employees and employers, and government and citizens. She debunks criticism that Nordic countries are socialist "nanny states", revealing instead that it is we Americans who are far more enmeshed in unhealthy dependencies than we realize. As Partanen explains step by step, the Nordic approach allows citizens to enjoy more individual freedom and independence than we do. The Nordic Theory of Everything makes a convincing argument that we can rebuild our society, rekindle our optimism, and restore true freedom to our relationships and lives.
'Til next time, remember to believe in yourself and your dream.
Warmly, Ally
PS: Please consider asking your local library to add FABULOUS to their catalogue. Doing so makes it accessible to those who might not have $10 to spend on purchasing a book. Thank you!
📚Click HERE to get your copy of It’s Okay Not to Be Fabulous Every Day!
I love your newsletter! Christian D. Larson said " Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is GREATER than any obstacle."